A thought on life and love,

i am in a pretty good relationship right, it is a little rough, but that is to be expected when dating in the military, it does not go smooth most of the time in civilian life. I think that in modern times we rush too much into love with out really knowing the person or realizing who they really are or can be. Once you get past the honeymoon love dovey phase, the real truth of people show, in which all facets of the personality show up, good and bad. Just before I get off shift in Iraq i am crabby, extremely so, i have been awake over 15 hours and am ready for bed, yet my lover tolerates and knows to leave me be before i get off shift, that or they are asleep. In each relationship it has to be give and take, not one gives and receives nothing in return, that is a very empty relationship. If both sides are giving and taking, then it is well done, if it is unbalanced, the one of the them gets unhappy and the fights start. A great example is one where the guy gets married without knowing the women at all, then he deploys and she spends all his money, will not send him anything he wants or needs and then he is wondering what she is really doing, resulting in fights. Trust and love in relationships grow with time and need a complete effort from both parties, not just one doing all the work. Sometimes love does happen quickly, and effortlessly, but it is good also for it to start like slow burning fire, fully engulfing both parties when it happens. Trust is another major issue, it can't be forced, it has to be developed and earned from both parties, and both parties have to be willing to forgive when stuff happens. If you can not talk out your issues, then what point is there in staying together.